Sometimes bad things happen to good people. Relationships break, careers fold, accidents happen, our hard work ends in bankruptcy or redundancy, our great kids make bad decisions - and sometimes this has nothing at all to do with us. 

It's always important to look at what we can learn, and how we can grow through the mess, but it doesn't mean we caused it or deserved it, or that we could have done anything to avoid it. What's needed is a gentle surrender - not in the way of giving up, we always have to fight for us - but in the way of surrendering the need to rewind or understand or hang on to what should have been. 

Some people report that they cannot relax, that relaxation is not working for them, or that they cannot bring themselves to practice relaxation.  Since all human beings share a similar biological make-up, there is usually no physical reason why relaxation should work for some people and not others.  

The reason that relaxation may not work for some people is usually some psychological factor or lack of practice. If you have difficulty relaxing it may be beneficial to explore the reasons for this difficulty.

Have you ever stopped to consider the true emotional toll parenting takes on you? Not the obvious stuff like loss of sleep or the ever-present worry for your kids’ general well-being, but the constant, almost subconscious, mental scanning of your little one’s needs?